There are two books that I got for myself recently that I think you might might want to read and add here (sadly, there aren’t any from Vietnamese mothers).
“I Wish For You a Beautiful Life” – Sara Dorrow (editor) is a beautiful book of letters written by Korean birthmothers to their children before or right after giving them up for adoption. Priceless for adoptees like myself, wondering what our birthmother’s might have to say to us, and heartbreaking.
“Message From an Unknown Chinese Mother” – Xinran (a chinese journalist) is a collection of true stories from Chinese birthmothers who gave up or even had to kill their children at birth (the one-child policy), and how they have lived with it years later.
Dear Tara,
Thank you so much for your comments and for the book recommendations! I actually have “Message From an Unknown Chinese Mother” but have not read it yet. I’ll put it on my Resources page, as well as the other book you suggested, which sounds like a really good one. I’m always so happy to hear from other adoptees. Thanks for reaching out, and I hope we can continue to keep in touch 🙂
Thank you so much for your email! I am in the process of crafting a longer one back, so you’ll hear from me in more detail soon! I’m so glad I found your blog, and I hope we can keep in touch too:)
We adopted our daughter from Taiwan in 2006. One book that was helpful for us was “Are Those Kids Yours” by Cheri Register. It was published some time ago so the stats are stale, but I found her frank discussion about interracial adoption to be challenging. She certainly makes you consider whether what you are doing is “best” for the child.
Thanks, Nick, for recommending “Are Those Kids Yours!” It sounds like a very good book. I like that the author talks about the ethics of uprooting children from their birth heritage and issues on the rights of birth parents. Sounds to be a very “frank discussion” as you mentioned, but a good and necessary one for everyone involved in interracial adoption. I will add it to the list! It’s nice to hear from you, and all the best to you and your family!
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There are two books that I got for myself recently that I think you might might want to read and add here (sadly, there aren’t any from Vietnamese mothers).
“I Wish For You a Beautiful Life” – Sara Dorrow (editor) is a beautiful book of letters written by Korean birthmothers to their children before or right after giving them up for adoption. Priceless for adoptees like myself, wondering what our birthmother’s might have to say to us, and heartbreaking.
“Message From an Unknown Chinese Mother” – Xinran (a chinese journalist) is a collection of true stories from Chinese birthmothers who gave up or even had to kill their children at birth (the one-child policy), and how they have lived with it years later.
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Dear Tara,
Thank you so much for your comments and for the book recommendations! I actually have “Message From an Unknown Chinese Mother” but have not read it yet. I’ll put it on my Resources page, as well as the other book you suggested, which sounds like a really good one. I’m always so happy to hear from other adoptees. Thanks for reaching out, and I hope we can continue to keep in touch 🙂
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Thank you so much for your email! I am in the process of crafting a longer one back, so you’ll hear from me in more detail soon! I’m so glad I found your blog, and I hope we can keep in touch too:)
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Hi Tara, no rush in getting back! I sincerely look forward to corresponding!
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We adopted our daughter from Taiwan in 2006. One book that was helpful for us was “Are Those Kids Yours” by Cheri Register. It was published some time ago so the stats are stale, but I found her frank discussion about interracial adoption to be challenging. She certainly makes you consider whether what you are doing is “best” for the child.
P.S. Love the blog. Thanks for sharing.
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Thanks, Nick, for recommending “Are Those Kids Yours!” It sounds like a very good book. I like that the author talks about the ethics of uprooting children from their birth heritage and issues on the rights of birth parents. Sounds to be a very “frank discussion” as you mentioned, but a good and necessary one for everyone involved in interracial adoption. I will add it to the list! It’s nice to hear from you, and all the best to you and your family!
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